The title of this post is a tough on for me and one I always struggle to answer without waffelling on!
I’ve been going back and forth since starting this blog as to whether I would write about this and I’ve decided why the hell not!
My husband and I have been together now for over 11 years, married for 3 and from day 1 have always said we can’t wait to have kids and openly spoken with others about it. Que our wedding, I think everyone was sat there either thinking I was already pregnant and if not it was only a matter of time!
Fast forward 3 years and we are as happy as pigs in mud and have a gorgeous fur-baby but no real baby. At first people would ask if we were trying, offer advice ect. Then it turned to, have you been tested, maybe you should go to the doctors, a holiday will relax you and you’ll catch on. Quickly followed by silence! Don’t get me wrong my closest of friends are in the loop but the vast majority don’t ask, avoid chat about children or tell me theirs are the devil incarnate and I’m better off without them!
Don’t get me wrong I understand some people might find it uncomfortable to bring up. Personally I would rather someone ask me flat out how my dodgy ovaries are going or joke about it! But that is just me!
The truth is we can’t wait to have kids, we are bursting at the seems to no longer have a life based solely around us and what we want to do. We have 3 amazing nephews and a gorgeous niece. We have God children and friends children that we adore and love babysitting but fingers crossed one day soon we get our own.
SIUI hasn’t worked for us so we only did the one round. We have now moved onto IVF and ICSI. I’m terrible at all the medical talk, Greig comes with me to every appointment and is the note taker. Currently I feel like a pin cushion (I’m also terrified of needles so this doesn’t sit well!) But hopefully it works and this will all be a distant memory.
If this part of life has taught me anything it’s that you never know what going on behind someone else’s door, you should always think before you speak and sometimes when all else fails all you can do is laugh!